From the Single Mom's Law School Experience, then "Almost Attorney" to FINALLY an Esquire!: Mom and Job Collide

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Mom and Job Collide

This is the hard part... working and single motherhood. My daughter is so use to me dropping everything in order to attend to her needs. I can't do that anymore. We have had a few issues in the past couple of weeks where I had to say to her, "I am sorry, I can't just drop work and pick you up." The adjustment period from having my sole attention to having to share it because mom has other responsibilities is a hard one for her to adjust too. On another note, it is nice because she is ASKING for mommy daughter time. And that is precious to me. I only have her 4 more years before she spreads her wings and flies outside of my home. So scary!!!!!

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FAQ

Lots of people ask me: how do you do it? How do you attend law school and raise a child alone? My answer is simply that you prioritize. You approach school as an 8 to 5 job. I take Friday evenings and Saturday's off. Study a bit on Sundays. For me this works. It means not being a part of the "social" things at school, and that time between your classes is in the library studying. But that's okay. You will have different goals then the students who are single with no children.

How do you afford it? Student loans........yes, you heard me. My reasoning is that my earning capacity will double, but likely triple, which means that I can afford to take on the debt to pay for a better future for my daughter and I.

Does you daughter resent you studying? No. Sometimes she gets frustrated, but she really does understand the bigger picture. She is my biggest supporter. I have learned to include her by taking her to class with me when I can, by having her help me study with flash cards, and by taking her to appropriate events at school. In fact, I did an incoming student panel one year, and the administration of the school had her speak as well. We are a team, and that includes this journey.