From the Single Mom's Law School Experience, then "Almost Attorney" to FINALLY an Esquire!: Do right, even if it bites you in the end........

Monday, January 3, 2011

Do right, even if it bites you in the end........

There is a personal story that I will tell you all someday....... right now it is too fresh, to new, and I feel too betrayed to be able to go into right now. But a few months ago, I needed to make a decision that could effect my professional life. I chose to do the RIGHT thing. The thing with integrity, the thing that would allow me to sleep at night-- that is the thing that I had to do. While I was assured I would be taken care of, not to worry, that I would have no concerns... the truth is that I was left twisting in the wind.

Lesson learned: Trust no one. But always do what you know, in your core being, is right. It may hurt sometimes, you may lose, but the truth is that your integrity as a person will continue to shine through.

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Kate SherwoodJanuary 3, 2011 at 3:32 PM
So sorry to hear this. Good luck. I wish I had better words of encouragement, but that feeling of being betrayed--when you made a conscious decision to do the right thing, of all things--is one of the worst. Being able to look back without regrets is one of the most peaceful, though. :)
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LisaJanuary 3, 2011 at 4:33 PM
Just this:

Thank you. And you are right, the only thing that really matters is being able to know I did the right thing. In the end, I have to live with me:)
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Lots of people ask me: how do you do it? How do you attend law school and raise a child alone? My answer is simply that you prioritize. You approach school as an 8 to 5 job. I take Friday evenings and Saturday's off. Study a bit on Sundays. For me this works. It means not being a part of the "social" things at school, and that time between your classes is in the library studying. But that's okay. You will have different goals then the students who are single with no children.

How do you afford it? Student loans........yes, you heard me. My reasoning is that my earning capacity will double, but likely triple, which means that I can afford to take on the debt to pay for a better future for my daughter and I.

Does you daughter resent you studying? No. Sometimes she gets frustrated, but she really does understand the bigger picture. She is my biggest supporter. I have learned to include her by taking her to class with me when I can, by having her help me study with flash cards, and by taking her to appropriate events at school. In fact, I did an incoming student panel one year, and the administration of the school had her speak as well. We are a team, and that includes this journey.